Parts work and somatic coaching, online
Something
keeps getting
in the way
You have a sense of what you want from your life, and then a voice, a tiredness or a good reason to wait shows up again. In these sessions we find out what that is, through conversation and through the body.
Book a free callThe harder you work on fixing yourself, the longer the list seems to get.
So we try something else: we stop trying to fix and meet what’s here, exactly as it is.
Often that’s when things start to move.
Why I call it unfolding
Most of us carry a quiet list of things we should change: be more confident, stop overthinking, finally start the thing. We push, it works for a while, and then the old pattern comes back, often at the worst possible moment.
Think of a fern in spring. The whole leaf is already there, rolled up tight, and nobody has to pull it open; it opens by itself when there is enough warmth.
This coaching works in a similar way. Behind a pattern that keeps coming back there is usually a part of you that learned long ago to hold back, and underneath it something you lost touch with: your strength, your sense of worth, your trust. When that part is met without any agenda to change it, it softens, and what was covered over comes back into view.
That is what I mean by unfolding.
What people notice
Everyone is different and I can’t promise any of this, but these are the changes people have described to me after sessions.
Lighter
Something you have been carrying for weeks becomes easier to hold, and some people feel it physically, in the shoulders or the chest.
More ground
Your feet feel the floor and your breath drops a little lower, so a hard conversation with an ex or a boss doesn’t knock you over as easily.
Bigger
You take up a bit more space in the room and stand a little taller without having to think about it.
Courage
You say the thing you’ve been swallowing for months, or take the step you kept postponing.
Clarity
You get a clearer sense of what you actually want to do next, and why it matters to you.
Curious how the method works?
About the methodIs this for you?
You might find yourself here if one of these sounds familiar:
→ You’re tired of working on yourself. Every new method turns into one more project, and the feeling that something is missing stays.
→ You’ve done therapy and read the books, and you understand your patterns quite well, yet the inner critic still talks and you still hold back.
→ A separation or a difficult relationship has taken a lot of your energy, and you’d like to feel at home in your body again.
→ You’re on a spiritual path, but most of it happens from the neck up, and you’d like the body to come along.
→ There’s something you want to do, like a project, a move or a new kind of work, and every time you get close you find a reason to wait.
→ Your body reacts before you understand why: the chest tightens before a call, or the jaw clenches when your phone lights up.
→ You’re curious about the quieter side of this work, where it becomes about more than solving problems.
Coaching or therapy?
I’m a coach, not a therapist. The two can work well together, but they do different jobs, and it helps to know which one you need right now.
| Therapy | This coaching |
| Can diagnose and treat mental health conditions | Doesn’t diagnose or treat anything |
| Often works through what happened in the past | Works with how things show up now, and with the past when it shows up today |
| Led by a licensed clinician | Led by a trained coach, without a clinical license |
| Medical or clinical framework | Developmental framework: how you grow |
| Right when life feels unmanageable | Right when life works, but something feels stuck or unlived |
When therapy is the right choice
If you’re dealing with depression, recent trauma, addiction, thoughts of harming yourself or a diagnosed mental health condition, please start with a doctor or a licensed therapist. If you are in crisis, contact your local emergency services.
When this coaching fits
Your life mostly works and you get through the week, but some part of you knows there is more, and you’d like to find out what it is.
Working with both
Many people see a therapist and a coach at the same time. If you do, let your therapist know about our sessions, so the two can support each other.
What happens in a session
Every session is different, but this is roughly how the hour goes.
1. Arriving
We start with whatever is here today: a decision, a feeling you can’t quite place, or a conversation that went badly. You don’t need to prepare anything.
2. Noticing
We slow down and look at how it shows up in your voice, your breath and your shoulders. Instead of describing the situation from the outside, you speak from inside it, slowly, while I mirror back what I hear.
3. Meeting the part
Usually there’s a part of you behind the pattern, such as a critic, a worrier, or one that keeps everything under control. Instead of pushing it away, we listen to it and let it show us what it’s been carrying.
4. Going deeper, then landing
Once a part feels truly met, there’s often more space inside, and something steadier can come through, like calm, warmth or courage. We take time to feel it in the body, sometimes say it out loud, I am strong, and end with a small experiment for the hours after the session.
Because I come from the Feldenkrais Method, sessions don’t have to be only talking. Sometimes I’ll ask you to stand up, shift your weight or try a small movement and notice what changes, so it helps to have a little floor space and a camera that sees more than your face.
FAQ
What is parts work?
Getting to know the different sides of you that pull in different directions, like the critic, the one who postpones, or the one who wants everything under control. In the way I work, which comes mainly from Aletheia coaching, parts are the doorway, not the destination. When a part is met without an agenda, it tends to soften into a felt sense in the body, and often into a steadier quality underneath it, like strength, worth or calm.
Is this IFS therapy?
No. I’m not a certified IFS therapist, and this isn’t therapy. Aletheia borrows its parts work from IFS and uses it as one step among several. If you’re looking for IFS therapy, the IFS Institute keeps a directory of certified therapists.
What is somatic coaching?
Coaching that includes the body. Besides talking, we notice what happens in your breath, posture and muscles while you speak, and sometimes we try a small movement. My background here is the Feldenkrais Method.
How does this help with being more present?
Most of the time we’re pulled away by a part: the planner, the worrier, or the one replaying yesterday’s conversation. As we get to know those parts, they tend to take up less room, and in sessions we also practice presence directly through the body, with small things you can repeat during your day.
How much does it cost?
€75–125 per session, on a sliding scale. Pick the amount that fits your situation; I won’t ask why.
How long are sessions?
60 minutes.
How often do we meet?
I suggest weekly sessions for the first month, so we can build some continuity, and then every two weeks, which gives you time to live with what came up.
How long do we work together?
I suggest starting with three to four months. Patterns that took years to form usually soften slowly, and then sometimes surprisingly fast. After that you can continue, switch to monthly sessions or stop, and you decide.
Where do we meet?
Online, on Zoom. Find a place where you won’t be interrupted, ideally with a little floor space.
Do I need to know anything about parts work or Feldenkrais?
No. I’ll explain what’s useful as we go.
Can I work with a therapist and a coach at the same time?
Yes. Let your therapist know about our sessions, so the two can support each other.
Can I book a single session?
Yes, if you’d like to see how it feels. I’d still suggest a few, because one hour is usually enough to find the thread, and following it takes a little longer.
Is there homework?
Usually one small experiment for the hours after a session, like checking in with a part once an hour or walking as the quality you found. New experience settles best in those first hours. It’s never required.
About me
I’m Nikola, a certified Feldenkrais practitioner and an Aletheia coach. I’ve completed Aletheia Levels 1 and 2 and a specialized training in dreamwork and journey work, I’m now in Level 3, and I’ve also trained in craniosacral work.
Ten years ago I left a career in IT and spent a long time looking for a way back to myself. The first real change came through the body: dancing Contact Improvisation, and then four years of Feldenkrais training.
Aletheia came later. It gave me a map for what was happening inside, the protective patterns I could feel but couldn’t yet see.
In sessions I bring the two together: careful attention to the body, and an honest conversation with the parts of you that hold you back.
I work with people internationally, one to one and online.
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Bring the thing that keeps getting in your way. In a free 20-minute call on Zoom you can tell me about it, ask anything about how I work, and we’ll both see whether this is a good fit.
It’s not a sales call.